There we are, travelling along our road of life, when suddenly we come upon a roadblock – an enormous, immovable rock that makes us slam on our brakes and screech to a stop!
We raise our eyes to take in the full magnitude of the rock; its size, its hardness, its power, its dominance. Life will never be the same again.
After some time we blink, take our gaze off the rock, and survey the landscape – to the left, to the right – and then, with a shrug of our shoulders and a nod of our head, we veer off our road and scramble into the rough country.
Our grief is not a problem to be solved; it is a journey through the rough country as we sort through, and respond to, all our emotions – the voices of our bodies – one day at a time.
- There are times when we travel through harsh terrain (disarray) – clambering over boulders, pulling out thorns as we fumble through thicket, shivering from cold as we wade through rivers… as past, present, and future emotions toss us about.
This is when we try to focus on our guiding stars above, which continue to steer us onward, towards our own true north i.e. our true selves. - There are times when we travel through violent weather (denial) – seeking shelter through soaking rain, maintaining our steadiness through whipping wind, gritting our teeth under ground-shaking thunder … as Mother Nature protects us by only allowing small amounts of awareness to surface here and there, so that we can handle our overwhelming emotions slowly, steadily, step by step.
This is when we try to remove the pressure of time, as we understand that time will eventually heal all, in it’s own time. - There are times when we travel through darkness (loneliness) – staggering through shadowy, dense forests, parting the trees, forging our path … as we feel mournful and numb, with no passion or desire to participate in anything without our Loved One.
This is when we try to reach an understanding that everyone is there for us, and that we are loved and cherished; the same way that we loved and cherished our Loved One.
Onward we travel, keeping our eyes focused ahead, our arms swaying, our feet moving … as days may become weeks, or months, or sometimes years; and during this challenging period we grow stronger as our breath deepens, our eyes brighten, our backs straighten, and our steps quicken, until we eventually reunite with our Loved One in a relationship that will live on, forever, surpassing all earthly boundaries, and time.
We Unite With Our Loved One
Our broken hearts slowly begin to mend, however, we know that as we merge back onto our wide-open road of life we will often come upon triggers – birthdays, anniversaries, something we see, something we hear, a scent in the air – which can flood us with memories and longing for our Loved One.
Whether we believe that this life is our ‘one and only’ life, or whether we believe that this life is one of many lives within a higher spiritual realm, we prepare ourselves for triggers, by expressing our grief and love, as we embrace the new, sacred relationship we eventually establish with our Loved One. This can be done in many ways e.g. we can talk to our Loved One, write them a letter, visit a sacred place to commemorate them, and continue to do their work, as we focus on the emotion of gratitude for having walked beside them on their beautiful, breathtaking beach of time.
Our commitment to our Loved One never ever dies. It is timeless . . .
